Parents Letting Go

Parents Letting Go: Effectively Launching Your Millennial

How can we as parents manage the process of letting go in love so that our young adult has the best chance to move toward healthy emotional and behavioral independence?

Parents Letting Go provides counseling and resources for parents of adult children. Dr. Jack Stoltzfus’ mission is to provide help to parents of young adults in the process of letting go and launching their young adult children. Managing this push and pull process by both parents and young adults has become more complicated and challenging.

Both parties are taking longer to say goodbye. Parents and their young adult children are closer these days than past generations. But this often strains the letting go process. According to an article in Psychology Today, more than half of children ages 18-24 live with their parents. Living at home is now the number one living arrangement for young adults between the ages of 18-34 (US Census Bureau).

Counseling and educational resources for parents of adult children can be difficult to find. Parents Letting Go is a growing resource for all the issues parents face with adult children. Whether it’s a failure to launch, communication gaps, or information on how to handle disagreements, Parents Letting Go has it covered.

Dr. Jack Stoltzfus
Dr. Jack Stoltzfus

Testimonials

  • Jack Stoltzfus, Ph.D., combines his depth of clinical training with a lifelong passion to help parents and their young adult children get it right. In this time when our kids seem so different than we were, and we want to do it differently than our parents did, Dr. Stoltzfus masterfully offers 'on-the-nose' insights to deepen understanding, and practical, easy to use tools to ensure we skillfully help launch our young adults, while maintaining that base of unconditional love. No easy task and he does it beautifully!
  • Based on my experience, there are all sorts of complications with communication and engaging young adults in divorced families. I have observed that while one parent may strive to help the young adult become independent, the other may not.
  • The  millennial”ese” quiz is engaging and helps people to become more involved, invested in the reading.
  • I LOVE the 10 interview questions!! I think if a parent could get honest answers from their young adult, the relationship would be half way home.  They really resonated with me and made me wonder (again), “How would my own adult children answer these?”
  • Knowing you’re not alone with the challenges of letting go was really helpful.
  • I really appreciated the questions and guidance given to facilitate the parent’s relationship with their children, I found myself wanting to use some of this information in a session with a client.
  • I’m often struck with the notion that both children and parents are hardwired for a relationship of unconditional love. It is often (usually?) the parent that messes up first. But love can be restored and relationships healed, if we are willing to take risks.
  • The idea of unconditional love should actually be taught BEFORE the child comes or early in his/her life. Maybe the rest would take care of itself.

From the Blog

How Do I Balance Love and Letting Go?

On May 7th, 14th and 21st I will be facilitating a workshop on how to successfully let go and launch your age 17 to 38-year-old young adult. Parents of young adults struggle with doing too much or too little. Do too much, and you are coddling and fostering dependency. Do too little, and you are […]

How Can Parents Let Go of Their Young Adult?

The title of this website is “Parents Letting Go.” It speaks to the normal developmental process of parents letting go and launching their young adult. If it seems more difficult today for both parents and young adults to let go, it is. As parents, we are closer to our kids and more invested in their […]

Self Forgiveness is the Hardest of All – Forgiveness Part II

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