When my daughter was starting college, we discussed the problem of helicopter parents with the college dean. He said one mother came in daily to clean her son’s dorm room, take his clothes to wash, and return with them the next day. I don’t like labeling parents, but in this case, I could hear the […]
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Testimonials
Dr. Jack is a great psychologist and counselor, his advice is very wise, sound and timely. We have been working with him for a year and enjoy his savvy advice and down to earth approach to solve issues. I would highly recommend Dr. Jack to any parent of young adults or young adults themselves seeking for guidance and advice.
I have seen Dr. Jack during multiple difficult periods of my life over the past 20 years. I’ve also referred friends and family to him and we all agree that he is an outstanding therapist. He is knowledgeable, empathetic, wise, kind, and willing to say what we need to hear. He has played an important role in my growth and well-being; my mental health, my relationships, and my parenting have all been recipients of Dr. Jack’s positive influence. Highly recommend!
When I met Jack it was on the heels of a very negative and damaging experience with a female psychologist. I was very leery and absolutely not about to trust anyone. In my work with Jack I have found him to be very principled, honest and willing to work however hard I was willing to work. He would encourage me when I was frustrated and troubled. At times, when I was finally able to laugh at myself some, he would sometimes laugh with me. Jack has been the most one of the most, if not the most, influence in my life. I would highly recommend him to anyone. More importantly, I would trust him to care for my family and loved ones.
We have been working with Dr. Jack for nearly one year and are very appreciative of his efforts. He has taken a great personal interest in our family and has been committed to helping us through this unknown journey of life. Dr. Jack has a so much experience with teenagers and adult children, and their parents. He has been able to give us more structure and consistency while helping our children to feel more autonomous while taking more responsibility for the future. At the same time, Dr. Jack has also helped me to be more compassionate and accepting. I highly recommend him to any family trying to launch.
Jack really helped my son and I agree on a path forward. My son benefited from the introspection and the realism of Jack's therapy and coaching. He found a new job while they were working together. Jack also referred a sleep psychologist who top notch, like Jack. I regularly recommend Jack ti parents struggling with concerns about their adult children.
From the Blog
To Fund or Not to Fund Your Young Adult
One of the most significant challenges parents face is when to step in financially to help their adult children. The fundamental question is whether such help would lead to greater independence, self-sufficiency, or dependence on parents. More factors contribute to the need for financial assistance today than twenty or thirty years ago. These include the […]
Teaching a Child How to Ride a Bicycle
Excerpt for my book submitted for publication entitled: The Launch Code: Loving and Letting Go of Our Adult Children It occurred to me the other night that teaching our children how to ride a bicycle may contain some lessons for how we should help our adult children transition into adulthood. Do you remember how you […]