This is an updated version of a blog published in December of 2019. Unless you have been in a coma this last year, you know that the holidays this year will be like none other. The messages of love, compassion, apology, forgiveness, and reconciliation are even more salient as we try to get together under […]
Parents Letting Go: Effectively Launching Your Millennial
How can we as parents manage the process of letting go in love so that our young adult has the best chance to move toward healthy emotional and behavioral independence?
Parents Letting Go provides counseling and resources for parents of adult children. Dr. Jack Stoltzfus’ mission is to provide help to parents of young adults in the process of letting go and launching their young adult children. Managing this push and pull process by both parents and young adults has become more complicated and challenging.
Both parties are taking longer to say goodbye. Parents and their young adult children are closer these days than past generations. But this often strains the letting go process. According to an article in Psychology Today, more than half of children ages 18-24 live with their parents. Living at home is now the number one living arrangement for young adults between the ages of 18-34 (US Census Bureau).
Counseling and educational resources for parents of adult children can be difficult to find. Parents Letting Go is a growing resource for all the issues parents face with adult children. Whether it’s a failure to launch, communication gaps, or information on how to handle disagreements, Parents Letting Go has it covered.
Jack Stoltzfus, Ph.D., combines his depth of clinical training with a lifelong passion to help parents and their young adult children get it right. In this time when our kids seem so different than we were, and we want to do it differently than our parents did, Dr. Stoltzfus masterfully offers 'on-the-nose' insights to deepen understanding, and practical, easy to use tools to ensure we skillfully help launch our young adults, while maintaining that base of unconditional love. No easy task and he does it beautifully!
Katherine M. Curran
Based on my experience, there are all sorts of complications with communication and engaging young adults in divorced families. I have observed that while one parent may strive to help the young adult become independent, the other may not.
Parent in a blended family
The millennial”ese” quiz is engaging and helps people to become more involved, invested in the reading.
Statement by a very tech savvy parent
I LOVE the 10 interview questions!! I think if a parent could get honest answers from their young adult, the relationship would be half way home. They really resonated with me and made me wonder (again), “How would my own adult children answer these?”
Knowing you’re not alone with the challenges of letting go was really helpful.
Mother attending a Parents Letting Go Workshop
I really appreciated the questions and guidance given to facilitate the parent’s relationship with their children, I found myself wanting to use some of this information in a session with a client.
Therapist who read Love to Let Go e-book
I’m often struck with the notion that both children and parents are hardwired for a relationship of unconditional love. It is often (usually?) the parent that messes up first. But love can be restored and relationships healed, if we are willing to take risks.
Mother of two young adults
The idea of unconditional love should actually be taught BEFORE the child comes or early in his/her life. Maybe the rest would take care of itself.
Parent attending a workshop on Parents Letting Go
From the Blog
“Our daughter hasn’t spoken to us in over twenty years. We don’t expect to hear from her during the holidays.” Parents in counseling lamenting the estrangement of their daughter. In my private practice, I continue to work with divided families. Members who are estranged and choosing not to speak to each other. The reasons for […]
A mother is helping her son with lawyer fees. The relationship with his girlfriend ended shortly after they had sex, and she did not tell him of her pregnancy for over a year after their son was born. This new father filed for custody because the mother was a drug addict and unable to take […]